Usually we don’t regurgitate her column here, but this week, our editrix takes a stand against those who want to suppress the dialog on sex, desire and pleasure over at BlogHer and we think it’s well worth the read:
Here’s what is at stake: Recent censorship of online discussions of sex and pornography — not the porn itself, but discussions — isn’t an issue of us versus them, morality versus indecency, conservatives versus liberals, believers versus atheists. This is a matter of freedom to speak, freedom to congregate, freedom to learn about ourselves and to share that knowledge. That’s what this country stands for and it’s essential that those of us who believe in these tenets take a stance against those seeking to oppress them.
Head over to the site to read the whole thing — and don’t miss the comments. They’re getting interesting.
Booze goggles — helping people get laid since humans and alcohol first came together. According to a recent study published in the journal Alcohol surveying the effects of alcohol on human ability to rate attractiveness (based here on symmetry) seems to have revealed that men are more accurate than women in their ratings.
Meaning women are more susceptible to deciding an asymmetrical face (read: unattractive person) is attractive. … Continue Reading
We here at Sex and the 405 peruse hundreds of sites and publications to get the news unfolding around the world about sex and relationships. It’s safe to assume we enjoy the topics. The truth is that we’re also rather fond of seeing how others handle the topics presented.
El Comercio is one of Peru’s biggest daily newspapers. Their coverage of an incident that unfolded in Lubeck, Germany, between two lovers is worthy of mention for their frighteningly biased treatment. … Continue Reading
She makes no secret of the fact that she thinks people who give away their location and get competitive over mayorship, a title with no merit, are patently insane, which is why we are quite gleeful to post the following excerpt from a recent The New York Times article. Seems our editrix missed a key function to the social network — how hot people get when they pit themselves against one another. … Continue Reading
One in five women report masturbating at least once a week. Of those, almost 60 percent use a sex toy. Women who report masturbating score higher on a self-esteem index and have a more positive body image than those who don’t. Women who use sex toys report experiencing greater satisfaction with their partners.
Meet Matt McMullen, the creator of the Real Doll, those wondrous masterpieces of workmanship that are part sex toy, part work of art. In this video from California is a Place, McMullen describes how the first doll came to be. … Continue Reading
Today marks a special milestone for me, a rite of passage in any young woman’s life. It’s a day I’ve always dreamed about… the day I first fucked a man with a strap-on dildo. Ah, life is sweet.
What? Did you expect me to talk about virginity? Or how about my wedding day? I could talk about both. I lost my virginity on the first date with my first love. My wedding day never came because my fiancé of seven years left me last year. Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, on to the good stuff… … Continue Reading
“Over half of American women would give up sex in return for not gaining 10 pounds”! That’s the headline over at the New York Post. Pretty interesting conclusion, considering the sample size of surveyed participants was 1,001 adults, both men and women, which hardly equals half of American women, but whatever.
Nutrisystem, the weightloss company behind the survey, found that 52 percent of women surveyed would take a summer without sex over gaining 10 pounds. A quarter of of men surveyed agreed. Those surveyed should take some time to consider that not only does sex improve cognition, but it’s actually a pretty decent form of exercise, should you put some back into it. … Continue Reading
That got your attention. Good. We here at Sex and the 405 are lovers of fine art and we’ll do whatever it takes to get you to pause long enough to consider the work of artists worth their salt. … Continue Reading
That Steam allows the objectification and sexualization of female characters in a variety of its games but refuses to accept a game about actually engaging with women in a more interactive fashion is astonishingly backward.
That the site doesn’t take measures to protect user content and has shown incompetence or negligence in regard to user privacy, all the while prohibiting victims from warning others about predatory behavior creates an environment where it is nearly impossible for members of the community to take care of themselves and one another. By enabling FetLife to continue espousing a code of silence, allowing the spinning self-created security issues as “attacks,” and not pointing out how disingenuous FetLife statements about safety are, we are allowing our community to become a breeding ground for exploitation.
Should people who benefit (parents, siblings, children, roommates!) from the earnings of “commercial sex acts” (any sexual conduct connected to the giving or receiving of something of value) be charged with human trafficking? Should someone who creates obscene material that is deemed “deviant” be charged as with human trafficking? Should someone who profits from obscene materials be charged with human trafficking? Should people transporting obscene materials be charged with human trafficking? Should a person who engages in sex with someone claiming to be above the age of consent or furnishing a fake ID to this effect be charged with human trafficking? What if I told you the sentences for that kind of conviction were eight, 14 or 20 years in prison, a fine not to exceed $500,000, and life as a registered sex offender?
If you are a woman, you might be given a chance to prove yourself in this community. Since there is no standard definition of what a “geek” is and it will vary from one judge to the next anyway, chances of failing are high (cake and grief counseling will be available after the conclusion of the test!). If you somehow manage to succeed, you’ll be tested again and again by anyone who encounters you until you manage to establish yourself like, say, Felicia Day. But even then, you’ll be questioned. As a woman, your whole existence within the geek community will be nothing but a series of tests — if you’re lucky. If you aren’t lucky, you’ll be harassed and threatened and those within the culture will tacitly agree that you deserve it.
Zak’s original field, it turns out, is economics, a far cry from the hearts and teddy bears we imagine when we consider his nickname. But after performing experiments on generosity, Zak stumbled on the importance of trust in interactions, which led him, rather inevitably, to research about oxytocin. Oxytocin, you might remember, is a hormone that has been linked previously to bonding — between mothers and children primarily, but also between partners. What Zak has done is take the research a step further, arguing in his recent book, The Moral Molecule, that oxytocin plays a role in determining whether we are good or evil.
Let’s talk about the strippers. Whether they like to be half-naked or not, whether they enjoy turning you on or not, there’s one thing they all have in common: they’re working. Whether you think that taking one’s clothes off for money is a great choice of career is really beside the point (is it a possibility for you to make $500 per hour at your job without a law degree? Just asking). These women are providing fantasy, yes, but that is their job. And as a patron of the establishment where they work, you need to treat them like you would anyone else who provides a service to you.
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