June 15, 2010

How Players Do It

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Last month, we did a write-up about a piece on co-ed sex from h-spot, a site that’s actually so in line with our mission and vision here at Sex and the 405, that we’d go as far as to call them a college-aged, sibling blog (our editrix jokes that, much like her kid sister, h-spot is more presentable and business-minded).

h-spot was into us, too, and they asked if we wanted to take a look at their educational sex video, How Players Do It. Have we ever said no to anything related to sex?

Today, we watched the video. Let us tell you something — being in this business, we’ve seen instructional videos. Hundreds. They’re generally filled with fluffy “it’s OK to like sex, sex is natural” kid-gloved affirmations, and it makes our eyes roll so far back into our heads, we see our hypothalami. We’re tired of videos that claim to teach sex, but spend half the time apologizing about it, or assuring people it’s OK if you want to do things differently.

Of course you will. No one is cut of the same cloth. But if you’re buying a video about sex, it means you need a place to start. We don’t know about you, but if we didn’t know jack about sex, we’d want to learn from someone confident who wasn’t afraid to enjoy it and who didn’t talk to us like we were so imbalanced that if we didn’t receive constant assurance, we’d snap and go on a homicidal rampage.

How Players Do It ($18.00) isn’t afraid to enjoy sex and treats viewers like they’re chilling at a bar. Not only is it full of tips, it’s funny as hell — and it actually gets you excited about sex!

This isn’t just a video we’d suggest to the uninitiated. God knows we’ve been boinking almost as long as these college kids have been alive, and we still thought it’s made of enough win to make us want to host movie nights and share it with all our friends. That says something.

Have a look at the trailer and see for yourself:

Bottom line: this should be part of the sex ed curriculum. Eat your heart out, U.S.A. This is how you teach sex. We hope h-spot follows up with a whole series, from putting on a condom with one’s mouth, to executing the reverse Amazon properly. Hell yes.

Image from h-spot.

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