Marriages are like snowflakes. They’re pretty different, one from the next. And the people in them find a way to make them work.
Sometimes this involves extra-curriculars. I have some friends in the adult entertainment industry who have an established “if there’s money involved, it doesn’t count,” rule. In my marriage, ex-husband told me I could hook up with other girls–as long as he got to watch and she and I didn’t have a close relationship.
Usually, you know this kind of thing, either because you’ve discussed it, or because you can intuit what’s OK and what crosses a line.
Not Fergie. The Sun recently reported the Black Eyed Peas bombshell had been surprised to find from her therapist that girl-on-girl play counts as cheating.
“I’ve had a lot of fun with women, and I’m not ashamed of it,” Fergie said. “But just because I enjoy women doesn’t mean I’m allowed to have affairs in my relationship. I learned through talking with my therapist that it is still cheating even if it’s with girls, so there is a rule there.”
This comes on the heels of accusations that her husband Josh Duhamel had a hot affair with a stripper. I can’t help but wonder whether casting herself as the cheater is a way to help herself cope.
Whatever the case, I wouldn’t give a hoot what my therapist thought constituted cheating in a marriage. This is the kind of thing you really should be talking about with your partner.
What do you guys think? Is it cheating if she’s doing it with another girl?
Image via Stuff Queer People Need To Know. Information from The Sun.