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We’re On KinkOnTap!

August 16, 2010 Our Happenings, Vitals 2 Comments

KinkOnTap is a weekly netcast that seeks to address sexuality, feminism and queer culture in a hearty and intelligent way, stripped of eroticization, sensationalism and self-aggrandizement. This week, host MayMay brought up our coverage of the Porn Cop fiasco over in Hollywood, Florida. … Continue Reading

We’re in the DateDaily

Oh, cool! We made it into the DateDaily, another site about sex and relationship news. This is what they had to say:

“Sex and the 405 is your online newspaper with the latest headlines on sex and all the good (and atrocious) stuff that comes with. This is one sexy site, complete with all the news you’ll ever need to know about sex. Best part: The 101 section.”

We Were on This Week On Twitter (Vaguely)

Our editrix was on This Week in Twitter, talking about tweeting while having sex, why she won’t do ChatRoulette (those services never provided her the legendary cybersex everyone else is having using them), harnessing Twitter to find people to date, the myth of transparency as an oversharer, how to hit on her (use Twitter), and all kinds of other geekery none of us really care about.

But she did it in lingerie. Literally — she walked into the Mahalo offices in lingerie and was on air the entire time in lingerie and hung out afterward in lingerie. Watch the hour-long show or skip to the end of this post to see a picture of her after Jason Calacanis’ dog Taurus knocked her down for a big gooey bulldog kiss.

Counter-clockwise around the table from the left: Lon Harris, Mike Bracco, Melissa Jun Rowley and AV Flox. Off-camera: Mark Jeffrey.

Special thanks to Mark Jeffrey, Lon Harris, Mike Bracco, Melissa Jun Rowley, the This Week production team at Mahalo, and Amanda Coolong.

We’re in the Los Angeles Times!

February 14, 2010 Our Happenings, Vitals No Comments

Oh, yeah! How could we forget to mention this? Sex and the 405 is in this Sunday’s Los Angeles Times! Image journo Whitney Friedlander got in touch with our editrix, who’s notorious for using Twitter to screen all potential lovers (her mating ritual involves grammar, punctuation and word sparring. We’ve seen her sext. She uses words like exegesis — WTF, right? Approach at your own risk).

Anyway, they dished the goss for a few hours, which resulted in a little mention for us, her loyal newsroom monkeys (who were slaving away in the word mines while she was lounging around for an awesome photo op with one of the Times most hardcore photojournos, Francine Orr, btw. Not that we’re bitter).

From Friendlander, the Timesexcellent piece on love online:

Online dating sites aren’t the only way to find that special someone. There will always be the lucky folk who find kinship in the unofficial dating pools of social networking sites. Witness local blogger A.V. Flox, who edits Sexandthe405.com and has vowed to date only guys she’s met on Twitter.

“[On Twitter], you’re having a conversation with people without any external factors like physical looks,” she says. “It’s just really raw. It’s just who the person is. You edit what you say on your blog [or e-mail], but on Twitter you will tweet ‘Ow, I stubbed my toe.’ It’s really great stuff and indicative of personality.”

Like, totally, A.V. ROTFL. You know we had to go there, right? We still love you. Now please can we get a Clover in the newsroom? kthnx.

Image and excerpt from the L.A. Times.

We Rode into The NYT on Cyan’s Noodz, via VentureBeat

February 13, 2010 Our Happenings, Vitals No Comments

We weren’t the only ones excited to see Zivity’s founder Cyan Banister take it all off on our site. VentureBeat reporter and tech-popcult commentator Paul Boutin jumped right on it.

As a result, we got into VentureBeat riding on Cyan’s n00dz, and since VentureBeat is syndicated to the New York Times

Check that out, you guys. We’re officially relevant. Irreverent, but relevant.

How about that?

Via Paul Boutin.

Sex and the 405: First Runner Up for Sexiest L.A. Blog!

January 23, 2010 Our Happenings, Vitals 5 Comments

On Thursday night, your humble editrix attended the LA Weekly‘s L.A. Web Awards, a ceremony awarding the best Los Angeles-based sites in 36 categories.

There was no sex blog category, so we didn’t expect to be party to more than the usual shenanigans–as shown in the photo on this post.

(Yes, that is your humble editrix noming on a certain Mashable contributor and former CNN reporter who shall remain unnamed. Nom nom! That’s how we roll!)

We were delighted to find, however, that Sex and the 405 had been first runner up for LA’s sexiest site.

We came thisclose to pwning SuicideGirls, which, in our opinion, far exceeds us in sexiness, but still!

How hot is that?

So we want to take a second to thank all of you, because this blog wouldn’t be possible without your comments, tips, ideas, stories, etc. You make this blog, people. We’re just your creatures, sitting here to string the words together. It’s all you. So thank you. You make this half-magnum opus-half-sweatshop gig worth it.

We adore you.

We’d also like to congratulate our friends at Lalawag, who won best tech blog; Caroline on Crack, who took best drinking blog; The Streets Are Calling, who won for best low brow art blog; Alana Joy, who took most shameless self promoter; LAist, who won best news blog; Sorting with Style, who took best retail site; and Sarah J. Gim, who won for best commenter.

The photo in this post is by The Streets Are Calling–those guys are dangerous, they’re so good at capturing shenanigans. If LaLaWhat got hold of their outtakes, I’m fairly confident we’d all be screwed!

We’re in Urban Daddy

December 24, 2009 Our Happenings, Vitals No Comments

We’re in UrbanDaddy’s Los Angeles anti-resolutions roundup! In case you don’t know, this is the equivalent of being immortalized with the about-town crowd.

The best part? We were labeled as a weapon of mass decreased productivity!

That’s right, our sweet orchids of decadence and depravity, we will waste away your afternoons “like some cheap magazine, when you coulda been learnin’ something, oh, well you know what I mean…”

(That’s a song, we’re not that clever.)

Not sure how they got the idea that we were like Sex and the City. The column, the show or the movie? That matters. Whatever the case, we’ll blame it on Adora. She’s been the favorite too long anyway.

Screengrab from UrbanDaddy.

We’re in Lalawag

November 18, 2009 Our Happenings, Vitals No Comments

Keep your friends close and the press closer, right? What happens when your friends happen to be press — or, more insidious still — run a gossip blog?

And they just so happen to have scandalous photos of you? OMG, it’s our editor in lingerie. Not sure we wanted to see that.

Thanks for the welcome, lalawag. We are happy to count you among our friends. Long live #shenanigans.

We’re on KTLA

November 12, 2009 Our Happenings, Vitals No Comments

“The heat is on in Southern California and we don’t mean the weather!”

KTLA’s News Central’s Melissa McCarty took it from the studio to give Los Angeles the 411 on Sex and the 405.

Our editrix had just flown in from somewhere and was just about to take off at the crack of dawn, but who tells KTLA no, right?

Suck it up, Flox. Take one for the team. That’s right.

Image and information from CBS2/KCAL9.

We’re in the LAist

November 10, 2009 Our Happenings, Vitals No Comments

Those guys at the LAist — let us tell you.

They don’t miss anything.

Sex and the 405 wasn’t even technically launched when they got wind of it and ran their piece “Foreplay or Death.”

Next thing we know, bam, we’re getting slammed and we have something ridiculous, like 30 articles up.

They do not mess around.

(We’re sure rumors about our editrix trying to steal Mr. Behrens from his date at Blogger Prom 2009 had absolutely nothing to do with any of this. Or the fact that she’s, you know, almost naked on our blog header.)


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Gamers Won’t Be Seduced, Will Stare At Random Cleav Instead

That Steam allows the objectification and sexualization of female characters in a variety of its games but refuses to accept a game about actually engaging with women in a more interactive fashion is astonishingly backward.

FetLife Is Not Safe for Users

That the site doesn’t take measures to protect user content and has shown incompetence or negligence in regard to user privacy, all the while prohibiting victims from warning others about predatory behavior creates an environment where it is nearly impossible for members of the community to take care of themselves and one another. By enabling FetLife to continue espousing a code of silence, allowing the spinning self-created security issues as “attacks,” and not pointing out how disingenuous FetLife statements about safety are, we are allowing our community to become a breeding ground for exploitation.

Why You Should Vote No On Prop 35

Should people who benefit (parents, siblings, children, roommates!) from the earnings of “commercial sex acts” (any sexual conduct connected to the giving or receiving of something of value) be charged with human trafficking? Should someone who creates obscene material that is deemed “deviant” be charged as with human trafficking? Should someone who profits from obscene materials be charged with human trafficking? Should people transporting obscene materials be charged with human trafficking? Should a person who engages in sex with someone claiming to be above the age of consent or furnishing a fake ID to this effect be charged with human trafficking? What if I told you the sentences for that kind of conviction were eight, 14 or 20 years in prison, a fine not to exceed $500,000, and life as a registered sex offender?

Pretty and Calls Herself a Geek? Attention Whore!

If you are a woman, you might be given a chance to prove yourself in this community. Since there is no standard definition of what a “geek” is and it will vary from one judge to the next anyway, chances of failing are high (cake and grief counseling will be available after the conclusion of the test!). If you somehow manage to succeed, you’ll be tested again and again by anyone who encounters you until you manage to establish yourself like, say, Felicia Day. But even then, you’ll be questioned. As a woman, your whole existence within the geek community will be nothing but a series of tests — if you’re lucky. If you aren’t lucky, you’ll be harassed and threatened and those within the culture will tacitly agree that you deserve it.

Cuddle Chemical? Moral Molecule? Not So Fast

Zak’s original field, it turns out, is economics, a far cry from the hearts and teddy bears we imagine when we consider his nickname. But after performing experiments on generosity, Zak stumbled on the importance of trust in interactions, which led him, rather inevitably, to research about oxytocin. Oxytocin, you might remember, is a hormone that has been linked previously to bonding — between mothers and children primarily, but also between partners. What Zak has done is take the research a step further, arguing in his recent book, The Moral Molecule, that oxytocin plays a role in determining whether we are good or evil.

How to Avoid Pissing off a Stripper

Let’s talk about the strippers. Whether they like to be half-naked or not, whether they enjoy turning you on or not, there’s one thing they all have in common: they’re working. Whether you think that taking one’s clothes off for money is a great choice of career is really beside the point (is it a possibility for you to make $500 per hour at your job without a law degree? Just asking). These women are providing fantasy, yes, but that is their job. And as a patron of the establishment where they work, you need to treat them like you would anyone else who provides a service to you.


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