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November 5, 2011 accoutrement, Lessons No Comments

Dement Lingerie

The one-handed bra-unhooking move — it’s a classic. We’ll probably never admit it to a man’s face, but when he reaches back there and unclasps our bras like it’s no big thing, we immediately endow him with epic brownie points. As to the ones who try and fail… we’d never admit this to their faces, either, but that’s nearly grounds for dismissal.

Technically, a man could avoid this by tearing the thing off us in the heat of passion (hot), or, as a certain artist one did to a certain editor whose name we shan’t mention, take a knife to it after a light round of blade-play… Of course, you can only sacrifice so many lingerie sets before a woman starts to resent you. So what do you do? … Continue Reading

Tested and Approved

October 10, 2011 Eyecandy, Toys, Women No Comments

Ryan Keely takes over Fleshbot

You’ve read your share of reviews. Reviews on Yelp, reviews on Amazon, reviews on blogs. People love to talk about how much they love a product or how much they hate it. Ranting: whether it’s positive or negative, it is what we do.

What we don’t usually see on the internet are videos that put things to the test. … Continue Reading

Affected by Porn Wikileaks? To Do List

April 8, 2011 How To, Porn Valley 2 Comments

Affected by Porn Wikileaks? To-do list.

Porn Wikileaks has left a lot of people feeling impotent and out of control. We will be compiling a list of things you can do to protect yourself as victims learn more information about the creator of the site and define a legal course of action.

For starters, if you are on the Adult Medical Industry (AIM) database, contact AIM and have your information moved to the civilian database, which, according to AfterDarkLA, is not accessible using adult industry-issued passcodes and is not believed to have been breached. The main number is (818) 981-5681. … Continue Reading

How To Get A Stranger to Facebook Friend You

April 6, 2011 Culture, How To, Lessons, web No Comments

We’ll open this piece by showing you what not to do:

How to lose Facebook friends and alienate people

We really wish this were some guy just out for a troll. But it appears that he’s serious. … Continue Reading

There’s Nothing Wrong With You


In a piece for New York Magazine, Davy Rothbart spends a lot of time agonizing over how the availability of porn online is affecting his sex life. He’s faking orgasms.

The article brings some good points about the difficulty some men may be experiencing in regard to how they understand the role of masturbation in their lives. The article is rife with the suggestion that masturbation and fantasy via porn is destroying men’s libidos. It’s a good conversation to initiate, however misguided, but it takes a turn for the intolerable when it suggests that women are changing their behavior to compete against pornography. … Continue Reading

The Art of Sending Good Sexy Pics

March 22, 2011 How To, Lessons 1 Comment

The art of sending a sexy pic

Chris Brown — whether he leaked those photos of himself or not doesn’t matter. What matters is that he may have sent those nude pics to one or several women, in hopes of impressing them. Have you considered it? Probably. But don’t worry. We’ve got your back. Whether you’re a man or a woman, here are five simple guidelines to ensure you never send fail n00dz again. Ever. … Continue Reading

Trolling Your Way to A Hook-Up

March 1, 2011 Lessons 2 Comments

There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to online dating, except probably this: if you go to a party, don’t leave your phone unattended, especially if you’re in the middle of getting to know someone via a dating site that has a very easy to use app. … Continue Reading

So You Want to Be a Pornstar

January 12, 2011 Lessons 1 Comment

Stop asking Ryan Keely how to be in porn

Porn doll and sex educator Ryan Keely couldn’t take it anymore. It seemed that every day another man asked her how to become a pornstar — not so they could hear helpful advice, either, but to assure her they fit the bill.

Yeah, right.

She shot a mass mailer to subscribers of her seminar Porn Star Sex Life (which vows to show men how to wow a woman into bed and beyond) detailing the tenets of male pornstardom. The truth of your future in porn can be summarized as “The Rule of Eights.” … Continue Reading

A Dick Made to Order

January 8, 2011 Toys No Comments

Made to Pleasure

We can’t possibly be the only ones who have looked at a sex shop’s offerings and wondered whether the sex toy industry has secretly pledged to try as hard as possible not to make men feel inadequate. We’re not size queens, but sometimes a girl needs more than five inches, you know? And don’t even get us started on the girth.

We’ve just the thing. Introducing the Made to Order Boutique, a place where you can not only specify how big you need it, but also design its shape and ridges and select the materials used to craft it. … Continue Reading

X-Ray-Proof Your Underwear Against the TSA

November 30, 2010 accoutrement, Lessons No Comments

Lucas Cranach the Elder's Adam and Eve

Cattle are better tended on the way to the slaughterhouse than we are at airports at the hands of the Transportation Security Administration (TSA). In a subversive act of revenge, a Colorado man has designed a line of undergarments for men and women made of weapons-grade tungsten lining to prevent the prying eyes of agents from feasting on our privates while in the x-ray. … Continue Reading


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Gamers Won’t Be Seduced, Will Stare At Random Cleav Instead

That Steam allows the objectification and sexualization of female characters in a variety of its games but refuses to accept a game about actually engaging with women in a more interactive fashion is astonishingly backward.

FetLife Is Not Safe for Users

That the site doesn’t take measures to protect user content and has shown incompetence or negligence in regard to user privacy, all the while prohibiting victims from warning others about predatory behavior creates an environment where it is nearly impossible for members of the community to take care of themselves and one another. By enabling FetLife to continue espousing a code of silence, allowing the spinning self-created security issues as “attacks,” and not pointing out how disingenuous FetLife statements about safety are, we are allowing our community to become a breeding ground for exploitation.

Why You Should Vote No On Prop 35

Should people who benefit (parents, siblings, children, roommates!) from the earnings of “commercial sex acts” (any sexual conduct connected to the giving or receiving of something of value) be charged with human trafficking? Should someone who creates obscene material that is deemed “deviant” be charged as with human trafficking? Should someone who profits from obscene materials be charged with human trafficking? Should people transporting obscene materials be charged with human trafficking? Should a person who engages in sex with someone claiming to be above the age of consent or furnishing a fake ID to this effect be charged with human trafficking? What if I told you the sentences for that kind of conviction were eight, 14 or 20 years in prison, a fine not to exceed $500,000, and life as a registered sex offender?

Pretty and Calls Herself a Geek? Attention Whore!

If you are a woman, you might be given a chance to prove yourself in this community. Since there is no standard definition of what a “geek” is and it will vary from one judge to the next anyway, chances of failing are high (cake and grief counseling will be available after the conclusion of the test!). If you somehow manage to succeed, you’ll be tested again and again by anyone who encounters you until you manage to establish yourself like, say, Felicia Day. But even then, you’ll be questioned. As a woman, your whole existence within the geek community will be nothing but a series of tests — if you’re lucky. If you aren’t lucky, you’ll be harassed and threatened and those within the culture will tacitly agree that you deserve it.

Cuddle Chemical? Moral Molecule? Not So Fast

Zak’s original field, it turns out, is economics, a far cry from the hearts and teddy bears we imagine when we consider his nickname. But after performing experiments on generosity, Zak stumbled on the importance of trust in interactions, which led him, rather inevitably, to research about oxytocin. Oxytocin, you might remember, is a hormone that has been linked previously to bonding — between mothers and children primarily, but also between partners. What Zak has done is take the research a step further, arguing in his recent book, The Moral Molecule, that oxytocin plays a role in determining whether we are good or evil.

How to Avoid Pissing off a Stripper

Let’s talk about the strippers. Whether they like to be half-naked or not, whether they enjoy turning you on or not, there’s one thing they all have in common: they’re working. Whether you think that taking one’s clothes off for money is a great choice of career is really beside the point (is it a possibility for you to make $500 per hour at your job without a law degree? Just asking). These women are providing fantasy, yes, but that is their job. And as a patron of the establishment where they work, you need to treat them like you would anyone else who provides a service to you.


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