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15 High-Energy Songs To Have Sex To

November 11, 2009 Homework 4 Comments

Some people judge one another by what they drive, others by where they work, others by who they know. I judge people by what they listen to. You can imagine what I was thinking when I read SPIKE’s Top 10 Best Songs To Have Sex To.

I can’t imagine a bigger clit-softener than hearing Marvin Gaye’s “Sexual Healing” come on the iLuv. Seriously?

So, since music is a matter of person taste and I’m having such a great time being a judgmental asshole, I thought I would extend the same courtesy to all of you and offer some of the songs I’d love having sex to right this second.

Nine Inch Nails’ “Closer,” the sex playlist favorite did not make the cut. Sorry, Trent. My sex is too high energy for you.

Supervixen by Garbage

“Make a whole new religion, a falling star that you cannot live without, and I’ll feed your obsessions. There is nothing but this thing you’ll never doubt, this thing you’ll never doubt.”

Buttons (feat. Snoop) by The Pussycat Dolls

“Baby, can’t you see how these clothes are fitting on me and the heat coming from this beat–I’m about to blow. I don’t think you know. I’m telling you loosen up my buttons, baby, but you keep fronting, saying what you going to do to me but I ain’t seen nothing.

Coming Up From Behind by Marcy Playground

“She’s got an avalanche packed into a snowball.”

Ooh La La by Goldfrapp

“Switch me on, turn me up. Don’t want it Baudelaire, just glitter lust.”

Las de la Intuición by Shakira

“Don’t ask me more about me–you know what the answer is. Since I laid eyes on you, I know what I’m going for. I propose to be your perfect victim. I propose to be an eruption.”

Lights On by The Pierces

“Make love with the lights on, baby, tell me what you see. Clear the bed to lie on darlin’, make a mess of me.”

Love Sex Magic (ft. Justin Timberlake) by Ciara

“Baby, show me, show me what’s your favorite trick that you wanna use on me and I’ll volunteer and I’ll be flowing and going, ’til clothing disappears, ain’t nothing but shoes on me.”

I Like It Rough by Lady GaGa

“You got me wondering why I like it rough, I like it rough, I like it rough.”

Love Stoned by Justin Timberlake

“Man I swear she’s bad and she knows, I think that she knows. She’s freaky and she knows it. She’s freaky, but I like it.”

Progulka by Zemfira

“I need it and I don’t. You’re my loneliness.”

Take Me on the Floor by The Veronicas

“You captivate me, something about you has got me, I was lonely now you make me feel alive–will you be mine tonight? Take me on the floor, I can’t take it any more. I want you, I want you, I want you to show me love.”

3 by Britney Spears

“What we do is innocent, just for fun and nothin’ meant. If you don’t like the company, let’s just do it you and me. You and me. Or three. Or four–on the floor!”

Pin by The Yeah Yeah Yeahs

“I like to sleep with him, pushin’ in the pin. I like to sleep with him. Well I know, I know.”

All The Things She Said by t.A.T.u.

“Wanna fly to a place where it’s just you and me, nobody else so we can be free.”

My Favourite Game by The Cardigans

“You rip me up and spread me all around in the dust of the deed of time and this is not a case of lust, you see. It’s not a matter of you versus of me.”

Conquest by The White Stripes

“And then in the strange way things happen, their roles were reversed from that day, the hunted became the huntress, the hunter became the prey.”

What songs get you going?

Image by Sharyn Morrow, modified.

Is This What You Want? Friday Morning Wake-Up Call

November 6, 2009 Homework 1 Comment

Think about the sex and relationship(s) you’re having. Is this what you want?

Debby Herbenick, a sex educator at The Kinsey Institute, and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction is fully responsible for this morning’s post-adolescent existential crisis.

“Too often in love and in sex, we go with the flow. We think things are going well enough or there’s no apparent conflict (and many of us are scared of conflict) so as long as there are no rough waters, we think everything must be fine,” Herbenick writes in a column for Psychology Today. “We’re safe, comfortable, maybe we even think at times that safe and comfortable add up to happy. And then one day someone asks us what we want. And we realize–in a startlingly vulnerable moment–that maybe what we have or what we’ve chased after isn’t what we want after all.”

I want you to take some time this weekend and make a list of what you want. That’s right, kids. Homework.

“See where it takes you,” suggests Herbenick. “Hopefully, it will move you closer to a place that feels right and that, in the barest of moments, helps you to breathe out gently, knowing that you’ve found it (at last).”

OK, I’ll go first, off the top of my head (good luck reading it):


Now you go–and share the link!

Shag Outside The Box

November 4, 2009 Homework 4 Comments

“A place can influence a couples’ pleasure quotient,” says Dr. Shivi Jaggi, a sex counselor. “Any place outside the stereotypical bedroom will help couples keep alive their sexual fire. The reason why they find hotel rooms more appealing than their bedrooms is because it’s a new pleasure playground that takes their mind away from mundane domesticity and adds a zing of excitement.”

kissAnyone who read that would think, oh, I don’t know, the boardroom at your office, a bathroom stall in a bar, a changing room at a boutique, a truck stop off a highway on the way to someplace else…

Not the Times of India. Their choice locations for escaping the sex doldrums are: the garage (careful not to hit the horn!), the attic (watch your head!), the basement (remember the echo magnifies moans!), the storage room (careful with the dust!), the balcony (remember your kids!), and the rooftop (watch for nosy neighbors!).

The balcony idea was not bad–though I have to say that the suggestion that a couple lock up the kids in their rooms so they don’t interrupt will probably not fly very well in the United States. But we Americans are weird like that. We’re always worrying about The Children–I think it’s amazing we have sex at all with all the worrying we do.

I’m into the rooftop, too. I like the rush of heights, though, so I’d probably skip the flowers and go right to the edge. If I wrote a similar list, my warnings–if I were to include them, which is kind of a downer, but I guess that’s the responsible thing–would probably say stuff like “injury/death/arrest may result.” This being the U.S., I’d probably have to have some kind of a legal statement, too, to avoid liability.

OK, I don’t know about you, but that totally killed my mojo.

One thing I will say–I’m jealous of anyone who can dig up Kama Sutra paintings from their storage rooms–hell, I’m jealous of anyone who has storage space in their house. Obviously, I’ve got to go to India.

What’s the one place you’ve done the deed that you’ll never forget?

Image by Brainbitch.

Whips Gone Green

November 3, 2009 Toys 5 Comments

rubberwhipWhat’s better than giving or getting a good flogging, my earth-conscious poppies of pain and decadence? Giving or getting a good flogging and recycling at the same time!

Earth Erotics, a green-conscious sex toy company, produces a recycled rubber whip. It’s “a spanking to feel good about.”

I’m partial to leather–sorry, PETA–but this level of conscious involvement in procuring sex toys is just neurotic enough to make any Angelino happy.

Most Reliable Condoms

November 2, 2009 Safety No Comments

Consumer Reports tests all kinds of products to ascertain their reliability and safety. Recently, they performed a test on 20 different brands of condoms:

The condoms that received a perfect score are:

  • Durex Performax
  • Lifestyles Ultra Sensitive Lubricated
  • Lifestyles Warming Pleasure
  • Trojan Her Pleasure Ecstasy
  • Trojan Magnum Lubricated
  • Trojan Ultra Ribbed Ecstasy
  • Trojan Ultra Thin

Now you know.

Thumbnail image by Courtney Walker, tip from Oz Sultan, results via Tampabay.com.

Vegan Condoms

October 30, 2009 Safety No Comments

You can’t swing a Fendi in this town without hitting two vegans, so it makes perfect sense that people are taking their sex habits on the bandwagon. Presenting: RFSU condoms (RFSU stands for Riksförbundet för sexuell upplysning, which Swedish for Association for Sexuality Education).

rsfuTheir condoms are certified vegan by the nonprofit Vegan Action. Vegan? Yes, vegan. See, latex employs casein, a milk protein. Vegan condoms don’t use casein or any other animal product.

A package containing three condoms will run you approximately $6.00. Nom nom nom. No milky goods for you of any sort.

Image by RFSU.

Gumby Dick

October 29, 2009 Culture, Safety 1 Comment

Face it, few people really love condoms. But we’re eternally grateful and have learned to deal with them. Companies are always trying to innovate the product and we have them to thank for fruity-flavored blowjobs, which may not be bomb, but are far better than dentist glove-tasting ones. Of course, every once in a while, they leave me wondering WTF.

I mean–would you tap this?

Gumby Trojans

Gumby Trojans

If you can have epic sex with a man wearing this, your libido is stronger than mine.

Via @followgumby.


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