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Kama Sutra: The Charms and Attitudes

Anaiis — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 16:18:53 +0000

This is an excerpt from the unabridged Kama Sutra, a sacred Indian text about the art of love and eroticism.

In his Nagarasarvasva, Padmashri mentions 16 feminine states of mind during the preliminaries of love. A woman can be tender, restive, contemptuous, excited, perplexed, mocking, relaxed, seductive, importunate, disagreeable, vain, bored, complaining, incapable, anxious, or charming.

These sixteen states of mind appear when a woman is in love. It is in understanding them that the man must practice the embraces, kisses, etc., that are the prelude to copulation.

If he does not perceive the woman’s emotional state and, when he is burning with desire, begins his effusions without worrying about a woman’s reaction, a man will always meet with failure.

Neither he nor the woman will experience true satisfaction.

In the Ujjvala Nilamani, agitation and the desire to seduce and gestures of affection are a young girl’s charms.

Beauty, courage, bloom, radiance, perspicuity, gentleness, and wiles are the qualities that make a woman attractive, to which are added ten attitudes or states of mind, which are as follows:

Feeling: When one is seized by the taste for love and desire awakes, the first confusion the god of love sows in the heart is called amorous feeling. The implementation of the feelings established in one’s consciousness is called experience.

Affection: When a woman embraces a man forcefully, drawing him toward her, begins to twine around him, and lays her trembling thighs on those of the stretched-out man, showing that her state of mind is disposed toward erotic activities, this is called affection.

Refusal: When a woman is angry with her lover, throws away her ornaments, and spurns his love, this is refusal.

Contempt: Even if her lover brings gifts that please her, she rejects them with contempt.

Excitement: Seeing her lover return from a journey, the woman is full of joy and weeps without shedding tears, or even starts laughing.

Perplexity: When the woman sometimes smiles, sometimes loses her temper, throws away the flowers she asked for, then picks them up again, goes to sleep at a girlfriend’s house while her lover is looking for her, or walks about here and there.

Amusement: Imitating all her lover’s words and making faces.

Flirtation: Approaching her lover, then going away, getting angry when he calls, then smiling at him, turning away with a grimace when her lover calls, pointing the finger of scorn at him, pacing up and down.

Seduction: Fluttering her eyelashes, making her eyes dance, laughing, talking, and interrupting herself, feeling a deep love for her lover and behaving accordingly.

Inopportunity: When her lover is not in the mood, approaching him and showing all signs connected with desire.

Boredom: When, while talking, the woman yawns on several occasions and stretches herself.

Moaning: The woman feigns pain.

Stupidity: When difficulties in sexual life are due to ignorance.

Anxiety: When her lover is late arriving, contesting her friends and weeping.

Charm: Moving her lashes, eyes, hands and feet artfully is called lalita bhava. Such behavior is frequent in women, with the aim of exciting the man.

A man must not let himself be led by his desire, but take into account the woman’s mood. In the presence of such behavior as described, a woman’s state of mind can be easily understood and met. In order to understand these states of mind, it is necessary to interpret the slightest signs. Padmashri explains that, for a man possessing every quality and expert in the 64 arts, a woman will drop her unmannerly husband without subtlety, like a garland of faded flowers.

According to Padmasri, however expert a man may be in arts and science, however famous and important, if he is scorned by women in the art of love, he is a dead man.

Image from The Daily Loaf. Information from The Complete Kama Sutra, translated by Alain Danielou.

Kama Sutra: The Embraces

Anaiis — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 13:21:04 +0000

This is an excerpt from the unabridged Kama Sutra, a sacred Indian text about the art of love and eroticism.

Before copulation, in order to arouse the penis with desire, the following four kinds of caress are practiced:

Contact

It is termed contact when the boy and girl are face to face, body pressing against body, uniting the areas involved. Although in contact, there is no question of penetration.

Bruising

In an isolated spot, finding her sitting or standing, he seizes her breasts. Since the boy hurts her by catching hold of her, it is called bruising.

The girl does not refuse the advances of the enterprising boy and does not go away. She allows him to continue, but there is no question of sleeping together, since they are not yet lovers.

Even in an isolated spot, she is reluctant to uncover her breasts. What can he do in order to knead them? Having drawn close, he finds some pretext to place his hands on her breasts. If she resists, the boy puts his arms around her and, uncovering his own sex, presses it against her from behind. Then, freeing her from his embrace, he kneads her breasts until she experiences a certain pleasure, sliding his penis between them and bruising them.

If they are not excited and do not speak, it will not work.

Baring

In the darkness, if people are present, or otherwise in an isolated place, they stroll slowly showing their bodies to each other, not just for an instant, but for some time.

The boy shows his body, the girl only the area involved. They caress each other and are both excited. Or else, he only exposes himself, while she remains clothed.

Squeezing

Leaning against a wall or a pillar, he presses his erect organ against her.

Image from The Daily Loaf. Information from The Complete Kama Sutra, translated by Alain Danielou.

Kama Sutra: Thou Must Not Cum Quickly

Anaiis — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:00:44 +0000

This is an excerpt from the unabridged Kama Sutra, a sacred Indian text about the art of love and eroticism.

One thing certain is that a man whose activity lasts long pleases women, while on the other hand they complain of men who reach orgasm quickly.

Satisfied tranquility is not to be found among women after an erotic experience with a man who reaches orgasm quickly. Women love and are pleased by men who ejaculate long after copulation.

A man whose ardor is rapid, who ejaculates quickly, detaches himself after experiencing his pleasure.

Men who have a habit of finishing quickly are not well looked upon.

It is on this that women’s attachment or contempt depends, and on this basis they decide which deserve to be used or not. The wife of a man who has difficulty in making her reach orgasm becomes hostile to him.

Thus it is that, from a certain point of view, a woman’s love or indifference is connected with the man’s possibility of making her reach orgasm.

Women appreciate the virility of the man who achieves the longest copulatory act. It is almost impossible for a woman to desire to sleep with someone who ejaculates quickly. Love’s delight is only possible if she reaches orgasm at the same time as the man of whom she is enamored.

This is why the man who pleases women is the one who gives them complete pleasure, and not the contrary.

A woman’s desire does not stop when she has reached orgasm. She experiences continual enjoyment. Her need for a man continues even when the itching of her clitoris has been calmed, which is why her need for signs of affection (kissing and caressing) is independent of her desire for enjoyment.

Image from The Daily Loaf. Information from The Complete Kama Sutra, translated by Alain Danielou.