Porn doll and sex educator Ryan Keely couldn’t take it anymore. It seemed that every day another man asked her how to become a pornstar — not so they could hear helpful advice, either, but to assure her they fit the bill.
She shot a mass mailer to subscribers of her seminar Porn Star Sex Life (which vows to show men how to wow a woman into bed and beyond) detailing the tenets of male pornstardom. The truth of your future in porn can be summarized as “The Rule of Eights.” … Continue Reading
Allow us to attempt to distill the geekery: Using data from the site OKCupid, they took a sample of 43,000 women from the same town, between 20 and 27 years of age, and all of a straight orientation and compared how users rated them on the site’s 1 to 5 scale versus how many messages each woman received on average.
The women with a pretty solid 4 score got less messages than women who had a score distributed between 5 and 1. … Continue Reading
We can’t possibly be the only ones who have looked at a sex shop’s offerings and wondered whether the sex toy industry has secretly pledged to try as hard as possible not to make men feel inadequate. We’re not size queens, but sometimes a girl needs more than five inches, you know? And don’t even get us started on the girth.
We’ve just the thing. Introducing the Made to Order Boutique, a place where you can not only specify how big you need it, but also design its shape and ridges and select the materials used to craft it. … Continue Reading
Nothing highlights cultural differences better than popular culture. Consider, for example, Bailando por un Sueño, the Latin American version of Dancing with the Stars. In the Argentinian version of the program, the show actually hosted a striptease-themed competition among participants.
“Somehow it’s OK for moms to have their wine nights. But try getting dispensation for a weekly bender with your fellow dads,” writes author and playwright Rick Marin. “Never happen. At a certain point, your typical Family Guy stops seeking out the Company of Men ‐‐ and all his references are Netflixed. We don’t get out much. We turn hermit, unless thrust together by forces beyond our control. Like our wives. ‘Do you enjoy the friends your wife has picked out for you?’ a buddy asked when we moved to L.A. a couple of years ago. Matter of fact I do. But there’s only so much quality bro time you can squeeze in at a 5‐year‐old’s birthday party.” … Continue Reading
The questions of whether couples should wait before having sex, and how long, and if it even matters, are robust perennials for news organizations, eager for traffic. Every year, a good handful of studies come out to feed the slow news days, and blogs trip over themselves to regurgitate the information, delighted to tap into fears or hit the jackpot of all things web: a slut- or virgin-shaming comment war to send those pageviews through the roof.
We’re no better. But instead of being snarky about the fact of course a Brigham Young University study found that having sex within the first month of dating led to the worst relationships, we’re going to focus on a compelling aspect of the discussion. … Continue Reading
A man in Detroit is facing charges for snooping in his wife’s inbox. His crime is related to a computer crimes statute generally used to address hackers and activity in connection with fraud.
Oakland County Prosecutor Jessica Cooper told the Detroit Free Press that the statute extended to personal e-mail because the inbox was password-protected and the husband downloaded the woman’s e-mails to use them in a “very contentious way.”
This “very contentious” way, is the fact that he was using said e-mails to prove that his wife was having an affair. … Continue Reading
Lolita, light of my life, fire of my loins. My sin, my soul. Lo-lee-ta: the tip of the tongue taking a trip of three steps down the palate to tap, at three, on the teeth. Lo. Lee. Ta. She was Lo, plain Lo, in the morning, standing four feet ten in one sock. She was Lola in slacks. She was Dolly at school. She was Dolores on the dotted line. But in my arms she was always Lolita.
So begins Vladimir Nabokov’s classic study of the brutal tyranny of obsession between the narrator Humbert Humbert and the 12-year-old nymphet. But this is no parody of the controversial work. Nor is there even a nod to the original beyond, perhaps, some pop culture references and those infamous heart-shaped glasses. … Continue Reading
Remember the briefcase indicator in the 90s? CNBC cameras would follow then-Fed chairman Alan Greenspan on his way to Federal Open Market Committee meetings and speculate on the state of the economy based on how his briefcase looked. As Greenspan recounts in Age of Turbulence:
If my briefcase was thin, the theory went, then my mind was untroubled and economy was well. But if it was stuffed full, it meant I’d been burning the midnight oil and a rate hike loomed. (For the record, the briefcase indicator was not accurate. The fatness of my briefcase was solely a function of whether I’d packed my lunch.)
Once you get over the shock of discovering we must all be — at the very least — in our thirties in this here newsroom, we invite you to delight in a bit of good news. CNBC is still at it! … Continue Reading
That Steam allows the objectification and sexualization of female characters in a variety of its games but refuses to accept a game about actually engaging with women in a more interactive fashion is astonishingly backward.
That the site doesn’t take measures to protect user content and has shown incompetence or negligence in regard to user privacy, all the while prohibiting victims from warning others about predatory behavior creates an environment where it is nearly impossible for members of the community to take care of themselves and one another. By enabling FetLife to continue espousing a code of silence, allowing the spinning self-created security issues as “attacks,” and not pointing out how disingenuous FetLife statements about safety are, we are allowing our community to become a breeding ground for exploitation.
Should people who benefit (parents, siblings, children, roommates!) from the earnings of “commercial sex acts” (any sexual conduct connected to the giving or receiving of something of value) be charged with human trafficking? Should someone who creates obscene material that is deemed “deviant” be charged as with human trafficking? Should someone who profits from obscene materials be charged with human trafficking? Should people transporting obscene materials be charged with human trafficking? Should a person who engages in sex with someone claiming to be above the age of consent or furnishing a fake ID to this effect be charged with human trafficking? What if I told you the sentences for that kind of conviction were eight, 14 or 20 years in prison, a fine not to exceed $500,000, and life as a registered sex offender?
If you are a woman, you might be given a chance to prove yourself in this community. Since there is no standard definition of what a “geek” is and it will vary from one judge to the next anyway, chances of failing are high (cake and grief counseling will be available after the conclusion of the test!). If you somehow manage to succeed, you’ll be tested again and again by anyone who encounters you until you manage to establish yourself like, say, Felicia Day. But even then, you’ll be questioned. As a woman, your whole existence within the geek community will be nothing but a series of tests — if you’re lucky. If you aren’t lucky, you’ll be harassed and threatened and those within the culture will tacitly agree that you deserve it.
Zak’s original field, it turns out, is economics, a far cry from the hearts and teddy bears we imagine when we consider his nickname. But after performing experiments on generosity, Zak stumbled on the importance of trust in interactions, which led him, rather inevitably, to research about oxytocin. Oxytocin, you might remember, is a hormone that has been linked previously to bonding — between mothers and children primarily, but also between partners. What Zak has done is take the research a step further, arguing in his recent book, The Moral Molecule, that oxytocin plays a role in determining whether we are good or evil.
Let’s talk about the strippers. Whether they like to be half-naked or not, whether they enjoy turning you on or not, there’s one thing they all have in common: they’re working. Whether you think that taking one’s clothes off for money is a great choice of career is really beside the point (is it a possibility for you to make $500 per hour at your job without a law degree? Just asking). These women are providing fantasy, yes, but that is their job. And as a patron of the establishment where they work, you need to treat them like you would anyone else who provides a service to you.
Sex and the 405 is what your newspaper would look like if it had a sex section.
Here you’ll find news about the latest research being conducted to figure out what drives desire, passion, and other sex habits; reviews of sex toys, porn and other sexy things; coverage of the latest sex-related news that have our mainstream media's panties up in a bunch; human interest pieces about sex and desire; interviews with people who love sex, or hate sex, or work in sex, or work to enable you to have better sex; opinion pieces that relate to sex and society; and the sex-related side of celebrity gossip. More...