Katy Perry: If Her Man Fails, There’s Always Girls!

January 8, 2010 Hollywoody, News No Comments

Katy Perry kissed a girl and she liked it–that much we know.

But just in case her fiance Russell Brand isn’t 100 percent clear, she’s gone on record saying she will turn to women if he somehow fails to fulfill her.

Lamest way to ensure fulfillment ever. Though what do I know about these things, I once beat my ex-husband over the head with my vibrator.

Don’t ask.

Image by Scott Nathan for Too Faced. Information from the Daily Star.

Dentist Helps Us Give Good Head

January 8, 2010 Oral 5 Comments

Listen up, boys and girls! A dentist from Ohio has set out to take the ouch out of blow jobs.

Introducing the Blowguard, pthalate-free, one-size fits all silicone guard for the teeth much like the sort used in sports, only the Blowguard comes with one extra perk: a little vibrator.

Dr. Joe, a children’s dentist in Ohio, told the Las Vegas Weekly how the product came about: “This lady came in (for a consultation) with fake teeth, and we had to make her a new set of teeth,” says Dr. Joe. “Her dentures moved a little bit. So we made her a nightguard. She went home and gave her boyfriend a blowjob, and she reported back to me that he loved it.”

Adding the vibrator was just the cherry on top of a sundae of serendipity.

Less teeth, baby, feel the good vibrations.

Image from BlowGuard. Information via Las Vegas Weekly.

Have Sex To Quit Bad Habits? Yes, And More!

January 8, 2010 News, Research 2 Comments

Yoga instructor Sadie Nardini and her husband wanted to quit cigarettes and chocolate, so they decided to have sex every day for the entire month of December, hoping the activity would assist them in overcoming their cravings.

Not only did sex help, but the couple began experiencing other benefits as well: they slept better, they had more energy, and they didn’t come down with the usual winter cold.

These and other health benefits of sex will soon be flooding our media, in a soon-to-be-published article in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor-in-chief of that journal, says that when you read about the physical benefits of sex, “you can’t help but say, ‘Holy God! Sexual activity is a very important thing to do. Human beings were really meant to do this.’”

The article on CNN outlines ten main benefits. These are our top five:

Longer life
In a British study, men who had intercourse at least twice a week lived longer than men who had sex less than once a month. A U.S. study had similar findings, and a Swedish study examining the sex lives of 70-year-olds found that men who died before their 75th birthday had ceased having sexual intercourse at earlier ages.

Healthier heart and lower blood pressure
In a British study, people who had intercourse twice a week or more were less likely to have heart attacks and other fatal coronary events. Those who had sex less than once a month had twice the rates of fatal coronary events, compared with those with the highest frequency of intercourse. In a study published in the journal Biological Psychology, people who had sex more often tended to have lower diastolic blood pressure, or the bottom number in a blood pressure reading.

Lower risk of breast cancer and prostate cancer
A French study found that women who have vaginal intercourse not at all or infrequently had three times the risk of breast cancer, compared with women who had intercourse more often. A Minnesota study found that men who’d had intercourse more than 3,000 times in their lives had half the prostate cancer risk of those who had not. While it’s not clear why this would be true, studies have found that men who had more intercourse tended to have better prostate function and eliminated more waste products in their semen.

Pain relief
Sex researcher Beverly Whipple and others have conducted studies suggesting that more sexual activity helps relieve lower back pain and migraines.

Better testosterone levels
A group of men being treated for erectile problems saw greater increases in testosterone when, along with the treatments, they had frequent sex. Specifically, men who had sex at least eight times per month had greater increases than those who had sex less than eight times per month.

Well, what are you waiting for? Have at it!

Information from CNN, via Neenz at Alltop.

It’s Labia Appreciation Day

January 8, 2010 Culture, Vitals 4 Comments

My New Pink Button is a product made to bring that pretty prink color back to your lips–and when I say lips, I mean your labia.

“My New Pink Button is a Cosmetic Dye especially for the woman’s genital area, to help restore that healthy vibrant Rosy color,” the site promises. “Until now there has never been a solution for restoring natural pigment. This is a concern with many women and more than you can even imagine, and a frequent question that Physicians are asked. Check out the blogs on the Internet. You are not alone! This is a common problem and we now have a simple and safe solution, restoring sexual confidence to Women everywhere!”

Deb on the Rocks, a contributing editor at the popular women’s site BlogHer has taken issue with this concept:

Now, actually, if you want to get a youthful feeling coursing through your labia, you would be better advised to, yes, go dancing, but instead of bringing My New Pink Button “Bettie” with you, find a Betty to come home with you. A Betty (or okay, if you must, a Bobby) who appreciates the glorious, diverse rainbow of natural labia colors fresh out of the box.

That will put you in the pink. Or rouge, or purple, or honey, or caramel, or the sienna shade of the edges of a closing Iris …

Better yet, just as you don’t need the dye, you don’t need anyone else to tell you your labia look mahvelous. What if it they just are mahvelous?

Because truthfully, I’m not in the market for labia dye. I’m not bragging when I say that my personal parts are a gorgeous labia shade as is — because I’m certain so are yours.
Many people are blowing off My New Pink Button as an unnecessary, comical product that’s white elephant-gift worthy.

In all, My New Pink Button makes me want to go all ninja labia avenger and throw mirror parties and finally rename The Vagina Monologues The Labia Monologues and stage actions where women jump on stages and proclaim “Bing cherry in da house!” or “Little Barbie Dream Corvette, baby!” or “This latte was made with a dash of cinnamon!” or “If you want me to change colors, put some lipstick where your mouth is, mister, and let’s get going!”

Deb’s not the only one, so we here at Sex and the 405 have decided to declare today Labia Appreciation Day. Come all ye women and love yourselves, or if you love women, go pay the proper tribute to your beloved’s labia!

Information via BlogHer. Image from My New Pink Button.

Pregnancy And The Flu

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) is holding a webinar and conference call on how the flu affects pregnancy this Wednesday, January 13, from 5:00 to 6:30PM PST.

Speakers include Dr. Sonja Rasmussen, a board-certified pediatrician and senior scientist in the CDC Division of Birth Defects and Developmental Disabilities and Dr. Betsy Mitchell, a health communication specialist.

Along side the doctors will be a… wait for it, wait for it… social media expert! This individual will turn you on to flu-related social media tools from CDC. Got flu? There may be an app for that. Stay tuned. Or just prepare to see your Twitter streams saturated with the #Preg&Flu hashtag.

Anyway, if you’re interested in attending, go ahead and e-mail NCHMInteractiveMedia@cdc.gov to RSVP and submit any questions you may have on the topic.

To call in during the conference, dial: 877-972-5886, the code to enter is: 7276457

To access the call via web, go to MyMeeting.

Information via Rita Arens.

Kama Sutra: The Charms and Attitudes

January 6, 2010 Kama Sutra, Lessons No Comments

kamasutraThis is an excerpt from the unabridged Kama Sutra, a sacred Indian text about the art of love and eroticism.

In his Nagarasarvasva, Padmashri mentions 16 feminine states of mind during the preliminaries of love. A woman can be tender, restive, contemptuous, excited, perplexed, mocking, relaxed, seductive, importunate, disagreeable, vain, bored, complaining, incapable, anxious, or charming.

These sixteen states of mind appear when a woman is in love. It is in understanding them that the man must practice the embraces, kisses, etc., that are the prelude to copulation.

If he does not perceive the woman’s emotional state and, when he is burning with desire, begins his effusions without worrying about a woman’s reaction, a man will always meet with failure.

Neither he nor the woman will experience true satisfaction.

In the Ujjvala Nilamani, agitation and the desire to seduce and gestures of affection are a young girl’s charms.

Beauty, courage, bloom, radiance, perspicuity, gentleness, and wiles are the qualities that make a woman attractive, to which are added ten attitudes or states of mind, which are as follows:

Feeling: When one is seized by the taste for love and desire awakes, the first confusion the god of love sows in the heart is called amorous feeling. The implementation of the feelings established in one’s consciousness is called experience.

Affection: When a woman embraces a man forcefully, drawing him toward her, begins to twine around him, and lays her trembling thighs on those of the stretched-out man, showing that her state of mind is disposed toward erotic activities, this is called affection.

Refusal: When a woman is angry with her lover, throws away her ornaments, and spurns his love, this is refusal.

Contempt: Even if her lover brings gifts that please her, she rejects them with contempt.

Excitement: Seeing her lover return from a journey, the woman is full of joy and weeps without shedding tears, or even starts laughing.

Perplexity: When the woman sometimes smiles, sometimes loses her temper, throws away the flowers she asked for, then picks them up again, goes to sleep at a girlfriend’s house while her lover is looking for her, or walks about here and there.

Amusement: Imitating all her lover’s words and making faces.

Flirtation: Approaching her lover, then going away, getting angry when he calls, then smiling at him, turning away with a grimace when her lover calls, pointing the finger of scorn at him, pacing up and down.

Seduction: Fluttering her eyelashes, making her eyes dance, laughing, talking, and interrupting herself, feeling a deep love for her lover and behaving accordingly.

Inopportunity: When her lover is not in the mood, approaching him and showing all signs connected with desire.

Boredom: When, while talking, the woman yawns on several occasions and stretches herself.

Moaning: The woman feigns pain.

Stupidity: When difficulties in sexual life are due to ignorance.

Anxiety: When her lover is late arriving, contesting her friends and weeping.

Charm: Moving her lashes, eyes, hands and feet artfully is called lalita bhava. Such behavior is frequent in women, with the aim of exciting the man.

A man must not let himself be led by his desire, but take into account the woman’s mood. In the presence of such behavior as described, a woman’s state of mind can be easily understood and met. In order to understand these states of mind, it is necessary to interpret the slightest signs. Padmashri explains that, for a man possessing every quality and expert in the 64 arts, a woman will drop her unmannerly husband without subtlety, like a garland of faded flowers.

According to Padmasri, however expert a man may be in arts and science, however famous and important, if he is scorned by women in the art of love, he is a dead man.

Image from The Daily Loaf. Information from The Complete Kama Sutra, translated by Alain Danielou.

G Spot: Fact or Fiction? Wait, What?

“Women everywhere have read or heard that they may possess a secret pleasure zone inside their bodies that, if stimulated correctly, yields intense pleasure and even orgasm,” CNN reported yesterday, adding: “But this so-called G-spot has never been precisely identified as a concrete biological entity. Scientists are still arguing over what it is and whether it exists at all.”

The g-spot (or g-ridge)–named so for Ernst Gräfenberg, a German scientist best known for his studies of female genitalia–is an area located on the anterior wall, one to three inches above the vaginal opening, which, when stimulated, reportedly leads to intense orgasms.

Now, research conducted by a team at King’s College London of over 1,800 female twins is suggesting that there is no genetic basis for a g-spot and that pleasure experienced from its stimulation may be more related to psychology than anything–meaning, it’s a bit like the placebo effect.

The existence of the g-spot has been the subject of contention since Gräfenberg’s day and now that this research has surfaced, media outlets are positively in a feeding frenzy over it.

Here’s my issue with the research: clinical psychologist Andrea Burri, who authored the report for the Journal of Sexual Medicine, and her team did not physically examine the women in the study to see whether they had a g-spot–they only gave participants a survey asking whether they believed that they had one.

To say there is no genetic correlation in a study of twins based on perception and not anatomy is to essentially say: in genetically similar or identical women, one may believe she has a g-spot while the other does not.

This is a study about perception, not about whether a g-spot exists.

They found that 56 percent of respondents answered “yes” and that there was no genetic correlation. But only about 30 percent said they were able to achieve orgasm during intercourse, which may indicate that women were confused by the G-spot question because stimulation of the G-spot is supposed to induce orgasm, she said.

The definition of G-spot in the study is too specific and doesn’t take into account that some women perceive their G-spots as bigger or smaller, or higher or lower, said Debby Herbenick, research scientist at Indiana University and author of the book Because It Feels Good.

“It’s not so much that it’s a thing that we can see, but it has been pretty widely accepted that many women find it pleasurable, if not orgasmic, to be stimulated on the front wall of the vagina,” said Herbenick, who was not involved in the study.

The study also found correlations with personality components in women who did report having G-spots: For instance, these women tended to be more extroverted, arousable and open to experience, which may indicate a psychological component to the G-spot, Burri said.

Certainly our perception of our bodies is critical to sex research, but to call into question that the g-spot exists without the proper examination of study subjects is bad science reporting at best.

“Initially, it was a good concept, because who wouldn’t like the idea of ‘push a button and get the best orgasm ever?’ ” Burri said, to which CNN’s Elizabeth Landau added: “But those women who can’t orgasm from vaginal intercourse may feel inadequate, and knowing that the G-spot may not exist can take some pressure off.”

That makes perfect fucking sense. Let’s tell people the clit doesn’t exist next so women who can’t orgasm through its stimulation and men who can’t find it don’t feel pressured, either.

God help me.

Slippery Slope: Government Regulation of Sex Toys

Last month in Canada, Dr. Carolyn Bennett, a Liberal Minister of Parliament, sent a letter to the Conservative Federal Minister of Health, Leona Aglukkaq, expressing concern about the sex toy industry and asking the government to take action in regulating sex toys.

The letter, which you can read in its entirety here, read, in part:

I am writing to express my concern for the urgent need for responsible regulation in the adult toy industry. In Canada, we are not yet doing enough to protect women against the very high concentratuons of materials linked to reproductive and other health issues.

… Our current legislation is insufficient. There are safe alternatives to pththalates and [bisphenol A] that are readily available.

It sounds like a good idea, right? Like they say on Facebook: It’s Complicated.

I’m gonna turn it over now to Cory Silverberg, blogger at About.com’s Sexuality Guide, who’s written about this topic at length:

In order to regulate sex toys first one needs to define the product category for proposed regulation. What qualifies as a sex toy? Currently in the U.S. sex toys are defined legally in some states (often as devices intended for genital stimulation). But they don’t exist as a defined category by health regulators. The same is true for many other countries where the term “sex toys” won’t be found in legal or regulatory documentation.

Even among sex toy retailers and manufacturers terms like dildo, vibrator, penis ring, butt plug can mean very different things. Is a sex toy defined by how it’s intended use? How it’s commonly used? Is a sex toy defined by who uses it or what kinds of bodies it gets used on? There is no generally agreed upon taxonomy of sex toys. There isn’t even an organization or body (public or private) that would be in a position to develop such a taxonomy.

But until we’re there, I’m certainly not comfortable with a government deciding what is and isn’t a sex toy, and regulating the products they think are while ignoring the products they decide aren’t.

And that’s just the beginning. Read his impassioned piece Why Government Regulation of Sex Toys Is a Bad Idea.

I’m with Silverberg on this one. I believe in educating consumers and leaving the government out of as much as humanly possible. But then, I’m a conservative. That’s just how we roll. Or used to. Yeah, yeah.

4chan Revolution: YouTube Porn Day

January 5, 2010 Culture, web 2 Comments

Sit tight, perverts. A lot of geekery is to follow. Bear with me and you will be handsomely rewarded.

Lukeywes1234 was an average YouTube user until the day 4chan (really? You don’t know what that is? OK, quick skim) decided to make him a god. His subscriptions shot through the roof and many of his videos were flooded with responses and tributes.

Now YouTube has suspended his account and 4chan is pissed. To retaliate, they have declared tomorrow YouTube Porn Day, asking supporters of the cause to upload video montages of porn mixed with work-safe images, such as cartoons, enabling videos to get around the system long enough to unleash an epic porn tsunami.

Don’t worry, we’ll let you know when you can go back to safely searching for My Little Pony videos while at the office.

Image and information via TechCrunch.

What’s Too Kinky?

January 5, 2010 Books, Culture 4 Comments

The zeroes flew by, didn’t they? We’re here to give you a recap of books that caught our eyes, captured our hearts and made us think during the noughties.

by Angela Koh

According to Judy Dutton’s How We Do It, 60 percent of adults fantasize about kinky sex.

Why would we rather smell a wet sock than kiss someone’s lips?

Dr. Richard von Krafft-Ebing was the first to publish a list of these paraphilias in Psychopathia Sexualis.

The Latin couldn’t keep readers away from the book:

Formicophilia: attraction to small animals or insects crawling on parts of the body

Chremastistophilia: arousal from being robbed

Telephonicophilia: arousal from making obscene phone calls to strangers

Voraphilia: arousal to the idea of being eaten or swallowed alive

We can’t forget about Japan’s omorashi or the arousal from having a full bladder. There’s even historical relevance to the fetish for gas masks in Great Britain after World War II. Today, Kraft-Ebing’s list of medical problems is simply diagnosed as human preference. Researchers found men who identified as sadists were not closet misogynists. Women with particular SM tastes were also activists in feminist groups.

With no psychologically unhealthy reason for such kinks, it’s become natural to push the envelope in bed. Dutton reports that the SM community has recently included activities of scat (feces arousal) and “ageplay” (enacting adult/child sex) as a part of Living in Leather’s programming.

Some fans argue that the rush of “edgeplay” like using guns and knives is well worth the risks. Angelina Jolie herself is rumored to have a room of ropes and sharp objects for her sexual disposal.

With the STD epidemic and the growing appetite from today’s internet-rampant sex fetishes, at what point must our generation return to question the sanity and safety of kinky sex?


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Gamers Won’t Be Seduced, Will Stare At Random Cleav Instead

That Steam allows the objectification and sexualization of female characters in a variety of its games but refuses to accept a game about actually engaging with women in a more interactive fashion is astonishingly backward.

FetLife Is Not Safe for Users

That the site doesn’t take measures to protect user content and has shown incompetence or negligence in regard to user privacy, all the while prohibiting victims from warning others about predatory behavior creates an environment where it is nearly impossible for members of the community to take care of themselves and one another. By enabling FetLife to continue espousing a code of silence, allowing the spinning self-created security issues as “attacks,” and not pointing out how disingenuous FetLife statements about safety are, we are allowing our community to become a breeding ground for exploitation.

Why You Should Vote No On Prop 35

Should people who benefit (parents, siblings, children, roommates!) from the earnings of “commercial sex acts” (any sexual conduct connected to the giving or receiving of something of value) be charged with human trafficking? Should someone who creates obscene material that is deemed “deviant” be charged as with human trafficking? Should someone who profits from obscene materials be charged with human trafficking? Should people transporting obscene materials be charged with human trafficking? Should a person who engages in sex with someone claiming to be above the age of consent or furnishing a fake ID to this effect be charged with human trafficking? What if I told you the sentences for that kind of conviction were eight, 14 or 20 years in prison, a fine not to exceed $500,000, and life as a registered sex offender?

Pretty and Calls Herself a Geek? Attention Whore!

If you are a woman, you might be given a chance to prove yourself in this community. Since there is no standard definition of what a “geek” is and it will vary from one judge to the next anyway, chances of failing are high (cake and grief counseling will be available after the conclusion of the test!). If you somehow manage to succeed, you’ll be tested again and again by anyone who encounters you until you manage to establish yourself like, say, Felicia Day. But even then, you’ll be questioned. As a woman, your whole existence within the geek community will be nothing but a series of tests — if you’re lucky. If you aren’t lucky, you’ll be harassed and threatened and those within the culture will tacitly agree that you deserve it.

Cuddle Chemical? Moral Molecule? Not So Fast

Zak’s original field, it turns out, is economics, a far cry from the hearts and teddy bears we imagine when we consider his nickname. But after performing experiments on generosity, Zak stumbled on the importance of trust in interactions, which led him, rather inevitably, to research about oxytocin. Oxytocin, you might remember, is a hormone that has been linked previously to bonding — between mothers and children primarily, but also between partners. What Zak has done is take the research a step further, arguing in his recent book, The Moral Molecule, that oxytocin plays a role in determining whether we are good or evil.

How to Avoid Pissing off a Stripper

Let’s talk about the strippers. Whether they like to be half-naked or not, whether they enjoy turning you on or not, there’s one thing they all have in common: they’re working. Whether you think that taking one’s clothes off for money is a great choice of career is really beside the point (is it a possibility for you to make $500 per hour at your job without a law degree? Just asking). These women are providing fantasy, yes, but that is their job. And as a patron of the establishment where they work, you need to treat them like you would anyone else who provides a service to you.


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