It took about two weeks for me to accept my identity as a sex worker. When I first interviewed and even when I arrived on my first day, I considered it like any serious job. In my mind, I emphasized the professional in professional dominatrix. The first time I started to accept the role of [...][...]
I Just Unlocked The Gonorrhea Badge on Foursquare!
On Foursquare, we check in to restaurants, the 405, concerts and airplanes with such competitive zest over mayorship, it puts Tonya Harding to shame — so why wouldn’t we want to check in to clinics when we’re getting an STD check-up? MTV, which is running a campaign to get people t[...]
Monogamy Has To Be Dirty To Work
“In order for monogamy to work, it has to be ‘dirty.’” Those are the words of Rabbi Irwin Kula, author of Yearnings: Embracing the Sacred Messiness of Life. “If the forbidden is what is exciting, we have to work hard to bring the taboo into our most intimate relationships,&[...]
August 31st, 2010 - 12:37 AM § in Opinion
Vajacial, Vajazzling, Vattoo… STOP
We here at Sex and the 405 think it’s excellent that women are taking an interest in their bodies. We thought the vajacial (a “facial” to soothe the general area after a wax) was fine despite the bizarre explosion of hype and obvious misnomer (the vagina is inside. The outside is t[...]
Middle Eastern Study Declares Female Ejaculation Pathological
Ah, female ejaculation. The holy grail of sex. Not many have seen it, fewer have lived it, but there it is. Hanging over our heads as science continues to scramble to understand its cause, function — or whether it exists at all. A recent study from the Middle East brought to our attention by S[...]
Are Strip Clubs Good for You?
Strip clubs — good for men? VCG Holdings, an adult entertainment giant with 19 clubs in 10 states thinks so. Recently, they commissioned Empire Research to conduct a study about the impact strip clubs have on men’s health. “Besides the obvious — beautiful women — we wan[...]
L.A.: Stressed or Self-Obsessed?
In a study of the country’s most stressful cities, Forbes has found Los Angeles ranks second — right after Las Vegas. Their methodology is fairly straight-forward: compare unemployment, commute times, work hours, access to health care, overall physical health and incidence of exercise. L[...]
August 29th, 2010 - 10:09 PM § in Culture, Papers/Rags
If We Had A Magazine, You’d Read It
We consume a lot of media here at Sex and the 405, including a handful of magazines, ranging from Psychology Today to Playboy. Among these, Cosmo probably gets more love than it does anywhere else, both because our editrix is taken with Helen Gurley Brown and because we accept each magazine for what[...]
Not Making Enough? It’s Because Your Vagina Stinks
Oh, Woman’s Day, you’ve really gone and done it this time. Their October 1, 2010 issue features an advertorial (usually put together by the rag and a company’s brand strategy team) for Summer’s Eve, a company that makes personal care products for women, which suggests that th[...]
How To Get A Sex Blogger To Have Sex With You
I’m a sex blogger. That means I write about sex. Does that mean I have sex? If I write about it in a non-fiction publication, then you can safely infer that yes, I do. Does that mean I will have sex with you? No, it does not. If you infer that I must enjoy sex [...][...]
I’m Ravenous, Baby!
When we talk about being ravenous and comment that we could just devour our lovers, well, it’s not literal. Lick, suck, nipple, bite, even. But chew and swallow? Not so much. That could be changing. According to El Comercio, a Brazilian restaurant by the name of Flimé in Berlin is opening its[...]
The (Near) Claiming of Ma Cherie
Never fear, dear readers. Your friendly neighborhood domme has not hung up her paddle. I am still dominating businessmen with excessive disposable income. No, my story this week is set in the BDSM scene, a comedy of errors in which I walked haphazardly and blindly into a minefield of social mores. L[...]
August 24th, 2010 - 10:00 AM § in Culture, Television
Hollywood Takes on The Skin Biz
Hollywood takes on the skin biz. Why not? Times are tough everyone’s sinking and God knows the Valley has more implants per capita than Tinseltown proper. HBO is about to get a little more interesting with a new drama about the skin biz, says The Hollywood Reporter. Mark Wahlberg, who did OK w[...]
Why We’re Not Lynching Apple’s Phillip Shoemaker
The web is up in arms about Apple App Store director Phillip Shoemaker following escorts and porn stars on Twitter. We’re here at Sex and the 405 refuse to jump on the bandwagon screaming hypocrite. We believe in personal choice and freedom. Whatever value Shoemaker finds in these connections [...]
Submissive Slut Seeks Stud
I need a lot of sex. In fact, I’m nearly insatiable. When I don’t get enough cock I think about it incessantly. When I do get enough (which is rare) I spend a good deal of time recalling the highlights and having orgasmic aftershocks from the memories. I love having sex with women, too, [...]
August 23rd, 2010 - 6:48 PM § in SciFet
Tron Pr0n: The Kama Sutra for Nerds
The internet has brought the joy of sex in all its variations out of the dark and put it at the hands of most anyone with enough brain cells to access Google. Now, the geek contingent of the population can cease its wild search for how-tos on Pornotube and tune in to something more their [...][...]
A Stripclub Movie To Rule Them All
Our friend George Griffith has been slaving on From The Head, what could possibly be the indie flick of the year, about a bathroom attendant in a New York City stripclub based on Griffith’s own experiences in the mid-90s. The film, an afternoon in the life of bathroom attendant Shoes, played b[...]
Adult Site Founder Backs Conservative Candidate, Media Freaks Out
You may remember Cyan Banister, one of the founders of the only venture capital-backed adult startup, Zivity. Well, according to the Associated Press, Banister and her husband donated $4,800 to Rand Paul, a Republican running for Senate in Kentucky. Why is this a big deal? Because Banister is a porn[...]
August 23rd, 2010 - 8:00 AM § in Hollywoody, News
Bill O’Reilly Exposes Gender Bias On The Factor
Justin Bieber and Kim Kardashian did a pictorial for Elle magazine’s September issue inspired by The Graduate — you guys remember the movie with Anne Bancroft and Dustin Hoffman, original MILF? FOX News’ Bill O’Reilly questioned guests about whether this was appropriate, sayi[...]
Heidi Montag Sex Tape!
“This is the best thing I can do for my ex-wife,” says sweetheart Spencer Pratt, soon-to-be ex-husband of Heidi Montag. He’s talking about selling a sex-tape featuring Montag. The tape, which he’s shopping for $5 million will show us Montag pre- and post-op, as well as some h[...]